Dating Online, Dating Tips

Tinder Plus Will Revolutionize Dating Again With ‘Undo-Swipe’ Button

Ladies and gentlemen, Tinder Plus is about to rock your world by allowing you to undo accidental left-swipes. That’s right, the hottie you accidentally sent away forever can be retrieved with the forthcoming update.

For $6.99 per month Tinder users will soon be able to rectify mistakes that caused tears and late-night status updates about the one that got away. No longer will you damn the app that stole your future spouse over an accidental ‘X’ swipe.

Other Tinder members won’t be able to see that this power is in your hands, so no one will know about your addiction to the app and the fact that you’re paying money to use it.

I think this additional control is a great move for the company that hooks strangers up. It will surely make the user feel more comfortable when casually swiping. It also gives Tinder a great way to monetize their product while giving us a tool that we will actually use and enjoy.

There will be other features added for the monthly fee but they have not been announced yet. I’m hoping for a button that will get rid of users that don’t like animals. Seriously, those people must be evil.

Keep your eyes peeled over the coming weeks for an in-app notification of the paid update. It is expected to be released in March.

Dating Rules, Dating Tips

Expectations Versus Reality: Why Dating Is Hard

There’s the “Hollywood” romance and then there’s yours. Why the reality of dating is NOTHING close to what you expect it to be like.

Expectation: You Should Look For An Epic Love Story

Sleepless in Seattle, Pretty Woman, Dirty Dancing, You Got Mail, etc. You get the point, the more drama, the better the ending, the better chance you have at an happily ever after love story

Reality: You Build Something Together

You do not need pain in order to have passion. The best love stories that happen, happen unexpectedly and happen because two people decide to build something together.

Expectation: You Need A Relationship To Be Happy

You don’t need to be in a relationship in order to be happy. People assume that in order to be happy, you need to be with someone, hence why online dating is at an all-time high. Don’t settle for love. Period. If you are expecting someone to make you happy, you are mislead. The only person who can make you happy is yourself.

Reality: Happiness Isn’t a Relationship It’s Who You Are

If you aren’t happy alone and with yourself, you can never find happiness with anyone.

Expectation: You and I become “we”

When one of you is invited somewhere, you both go; one of you doesn’t exist without another. When you are in a relationship, the independence dies, because now it’s all about “we” everywhere.

Reality: It Takes Two

If you become a “we” and stop maintaining two distinct lives and identities, the relationship risks collapsing in on itself.

Expectation: Things Will Never Go Wrong

We’ll never argue. We’ll never have to worry about outside pressures. We’ll never have family problems. Everything will always come up roses.

Reality: Things Will Go Wrong

Relationships are not always smooth sailing. Issues come up, disagreements happen. It’s the way you handle the trough times together that defines your relationship.

Expectations: You Change For Someone You Love

If your relationship is struggling, you will change in order to adapt to the person you’re with and improve to be good enough. Hey, maybe you’ll even change what you want out of life so you can accommodate your partner’s goals and desire. It’s all about your partner now, not you.

Reality: A Relationship Is A Two-Way Street

You should not have to change who you are in order to be with someone you love. Sometimes, compromise is necessary, but changing who you are and compromising are not the same thing.

Expectation: Your Relationship Is Everything

Now that you are in a relationship, that’s it. You are done. Every focus should be on this relationship and you must be with your best friend.

Reailty: A Realtionship Adds To Your Life

A relationship adds to your life, doesn’t take anything away and it’s the only thing that matters in your life. Yes, you have your career, you may have kids, you have hobbies, interests, etc. Having that special someone in life will add to what you already have.

Expectation: Your Love Is The Be-all, End-all

How many times have you heard the saying, “Love conquers all?” and, “All you need is love?” This is what will help you get through all the tough times, is love and only love.

Reality: Love Is Only The Foundation

Relationships require a hell of a lot more than love. They require trust, effort, understanding, faith, patience and honesty. Those are the things that will get you through the tough patches, not just love alone.

Expectations vs Realities

All relationships go through bad times, but real relationships get through bad times. Relationships include: fights, jealousy, arguments, and tears. But a real relationship fights through all of those with real, genuine, love. Expecting things to turn out a certain way will end up disappointing you.

Dating Advice, Dating Tips

15 Unrealistic Female Leads

While these these characters and the women who play them can be looked up to, many of their aspects are completely unrealistic for any real, normal human.

Cameron Diaz in The Holiday

Most Unrealistic: Having a dozen beautiful winter coats to wear in England, when you are from L.A. Also, fitting all those coats in one suitcase.

Kate Hudson in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days

Most Unrealistic: Perfect job, friends, apartment, wardrobe, body, life in NYC.

Eva Mendes in The Women

Most Unrealistic: Being a woman whose only goal in life is to break up marriages and buy expensive things.

Alexis Bledel in Gilmore Girls

Most Unrealistic: Never having to pay for college or rent because everyone surrounding you is somehow rich and eager to help.

Katherine Heigl in 27 Dresses

Most Unrealistic: Basically being a saint. Also, having 27 friends close enough to you that they want you as a bridesmaid.

Scarlett Johansson as Black Widow

Most Unrealistic: Always looking sexy and sporting cleavage while performing intense physical tasks.

Any Bond Girl

Most Unrealistic: Living to look sexy in a cocktail dress or bikini.

Sarah Jessica Parker in Sex and the City

Most Unrealistic: Being able to afford those shoes, that lifestyle, and that apartment on a columnists salary.

Rachel McAdams in Mean Girls

Most Unrealistic: Surviving after being hit by a bus.

Kiera Knightley in Everything

Most Unrealistic: Being flawless and seemingly made of porcelain.

Rosamund Pike in Gone Girl

Most Unrealistic: Being the most meticulous villain of all time and making it look doable.

Uma Thurman in Kill Bill

Most Unrealistic: Bouncing back to a killing machine right after being in a coma for several months.

Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days of Summer

Most Unrealistic: Dozens and dozens of men stalking her at her ice cream parlor job and bus route because she is so irresistible.

Lena Dunham in Girls

Most Unrealistic: Being a caricature of the worst kind of 20-something female.

Heike Makatsch in Love Actually

Most Unrealistic: Having only one personality trait.

Dating Advice, Dating Tips

How Not To Be Labeled A “Creep”

Follow these rules to avoid “creep” status. Also, just follow them if you want to be a better human being.

Don’t Laugh at Your Own Jokes

You might miss the fact that no one else is laughing…

Don’t Only Compliment Body Parts

This makes you look sex-obsessed and immature. A woman is more than her boobs/butt/eyes/thighs etc.

Don’t Look at Her Phone

Who she is texting is none of your business, and it makes you look like a jealous weirdo if you look at her phone without her knowledge.

Don’t Ask For Pictures

Especially right away. Don’t be that guy.

Don’t Cat Call

THIS IS NEVER FLATTERING EVER.

Don’t Gossip

If you are constantly bad mouthing other people, it makes you look super immature and a little crazy.

Don’t Call All the Time

This makes you look like a stalker with a lot of time on your hands.

Don’t Assume

Just because she came over to your house does not mean she wants to sleep with you right now. Don’t ever assume. It makes you look desperate and gross.

Don’t Try and Impress With Material Things

Things only go so far. After awhile, the gifts begin to look suspicious. There are better ways to impress than with money. Money is the easy way.

Don’t Be Late

This is disrespectful and makes you a creep and a jerk. It’s like your time is more valuable than hers.

Don’t Order for Her

Let her eat/drink whatever she wants. She is not a child.

Don’t Act Like Being Gay is Bad

Dudes who are super afraid of looking feminine or seeming gay are ridiculous. This makes you look like a Grade A creep.

Don’t Try to Make Her Jealous

Talking about the other girls who want you/ that you have dated does not make you desirable. It makes you a creep.

Don’t Comment on Her Friends

Calling her friends hot or making jokes about their appearances is a serious no-no.

Don’t Call Her a Slut/Whore/Anything Mean

First of all, who are you to judge? Second of all, just don’t.

Dating Tips

The Pros and Cons of Being A Couple On Valentine’s Day

Yes, the “dreaded” day for all singles is coming…. Valentine’s Day! But it’s also a dreaded day for some couples. Here are the pros and cons of being in a relationship on this day. Because frankly, why do we need a day to tell someone we love them? What about the other 364 days?

Con: You May Not Have Sex

Everyone knows that Valentine’s Day = Sex. So if you are in a relationship and you don’t have sex that could mean that your relationship is either stale, about to crumble, and the sparks in your relationship have vanished.

Pro: You Get Gifts

To some, all they care about is getting presents. And on V-day, if you are a woman you get candy, teddy bears, lingerie, jewelry. And if you are a guy, you too can get some free gifts.

Con: It’s Not Cheap

With gifts cost money. Men will spend an average of 5.61, while women will spend roughly .78.

Pro: It Can Be Romantic

If you crave romance then Valentine’s Day is the DAY for romance. Guys go all out of their way to make it romantic so they can get sex in the end, but they still plan a great evening. And sometimes women come up with some romantic ideas on this day too and end the evening with sex as well.

Con: The Movie

The movie: In a series of interconnected stories, various Los Angeles residents (Jessica Alba, Jessica Biel, Bradley Cooper) wend their way through the highs and lows of love during a single day. As the holiday unfolds, they experience first dates, longtime commitments, youthful crushes and connections to old flames. ( and now this year, 50 Shades of Grey will be on the big screen, making men inferior to having kinky sex like in the movie)

Pro: You Could Get Engaged

Approximately 4 million Americans are expected to propose on Valentine’s Day- that means that if you have been dating for over 6 months, you could be one of those Americans!

Con: The Pressure Is On

The pressure for guys is two-fold. 1) If you have been dating for a long time and don’t propose, you’re screwed. 2) If you have just met her and or started dating, the pressure to get a thoughtful gift and not seem needy or cheap is also on. Yes guys, you are on the clock…

Pro: Spread The Love

This is the one day a year where it’s okay to be sappy and corny. As long as you are spreading the love, isn’t that what matters?

Con: No Freedom

If you are in a relationship on Valentine’s Day then that means you mostly are forced to celebrate, whereas if you single or not in a serious relationship, you don’t have the joy of not having to bother.

Pro: Love Inspires Creativity

Just head over to Pinterest and you will be bombarded with pins on card ideas, gift ideas, poems, love letters, etc. Love inspires us to let our creativity flow. And it’s the perfect way to express our affection for someone.

Con: You Have High Expections

The let down isn’t like every other day let downs. It’s a really, really, big let down. No candy, no gift, no romance… and if you expect a proposal and don’t get it… that leads you to depression lane.

Pro: You Can Rekindle Your Relationship

If your relationship is sinking, this could be the day that changes that all for the better. Being forced to celebrate could remind you of what you have and make you realize what you take for granted. It could bring out the spontaneity in you and having an adventurous day when you least expect it, is awesome!

Con: Red and Pink

The colors red and pink are overplayed. Seriously, who wants to see a guy in a pink shirt with red hearts all over it? Um, not me. And frankly I don’t want to even be in a pink shirt with red hearts all over it. The colors are not symbols of love, they are just colors. You can show your love with blue, orange, yellow or even purple.

Pro: Babies

IF you are looking to start a family, this is a great day to do just that. And what an awesome way to bond with your partner.

Con: Send In The Clowns

The over the top guys and gals on this day! We narrow the focus on the day as a couple’s holiday rather than as a holiday to just show our friends, family and lover how much we care. And what about the other 364 days? What are we supposed to do then? Everyday is Valentine’s Day when you’re with the right person.